sharing of marriage

The old man placed order for one hamburger, French fries and a drink.

He unwrapped the plain hamburger and carefully cut it in half, placing one half in front of his wife..

He then carefully counted out the French fries, dividing them into two piles and neatly placed one pile in front of his wife.

He took a sip of the drink, his wife took a sip and then set the cup down between them . As he began to eat his few bites of hamburger, the people around them were looking over and whispering.

Obviously they were thinking, "That poor old couple - all they can afford is one meal for the two of them."

As the man began to eat his fries a young man came to the table and politely offered to buy another meal for the old couple. The old man said, they were just fine - they were used to sharing everything.

People closer to the table noticed the little old lady hadn't eaten a bite. She sat there watching her husband eat and occasionally taking turns sipping the drink.

Again, the young man came over and begged them to let him buy another meal for them. This time the old woman said "No, thank you, we are used to sharing everything."

Finally, as the old man finished and was wiping his face neatly with the napkin, the young man again came over to the little old lady who had yet to eat a single bite of food and asked "What is it you are waiting for?"

She answered


"THE TEETH."

the weekend

This weekend was just lovely, we went to the Hunter Valley from Friday to Monday. We arrived at this lovely Tuscany looking building and had the cutest little room with a great view - we even had Kangaroos come at the back of our room. We had a massage and spent the evening relaxing had dinner and a fab glass of red wine (it is the Hunter Valley) just chilling. Saturday we got up had a game of tennis - I am improving! and then at 10.30am we were 'all aboard' for a bus trip around 5 different vineyards to sample wine - it was really nice and we got to try some lovely wines. We had a pleasant lunch, tried some yummy cheeses, met some nice people and purchased a few super bottles of wine. If you ever come for dinner - you might get lucky ;)
Sunday 'our actual anniversary' we did our own trip around a few boutique vineyards we had heard about, this was fun to do by ourselves, I also took some pictures of the beautiful flowers it was so pretty - but we didn't take too many pictures of us ;(
Sunday night we went out for a meal at a place called Roberts - scrummy yummy food was had and the place was so quaint and cute inside and out. I had been there once before with a friend who was out from England, we happened to stumble on it - two English girls not really knowing there way around - we didn't do too badly. I have been wanting to take SP there for a while.
Yesterday we headed home after coffee and a muffin via SP's grandparents place, we thankfully missed any of the nasty Easter weekend traffic and we are now back to work, anniversary over - working on our second year of marriage ;)

I will post some pics up soon ;) Happy Tuesday.

almost a year

It is hard to believe that this Sunday will be our first wedding anniversary - WOW.

How time flies. A lot of people told me 'the first year is the hardest' - there has certainly been some hard moments and I am sure there will be plenty more to come but it has also been a great time of growing together and also of personal growth for each of us.

What I have noticed with marriage is that when it is hard - it is REALLY hard but when it is good - it is REALLY good. God has stretched me out of my comfort zone, forced me to learn to reconcile and work through issues rather than run away and ignore them, this is extremely tough for me but extremely beneficial.

I realize that God absolutely knew what he was doing when he brought SP into my life, God knows me better than I know myself and he knows SP better than SP knows himself, he knew my needs and he knew SP's needs and he brought us together to become one flesh - faults an all. Two sinful human beings under God's rule learning to put each other first - it isn't easy but I wouldn't have it any other way. We certainly don't have it all together - selfishness and self preservation raises it's ugly head a lot, we are still learning daily and I am sure will do so for the rest of our lives together.

I loved my life before I was married, I loved sleeping in my big bed by myself but now I miss SP when he is home late and feel weird being on my own in bed, it's amazing how quickly the two becoming one flesh becomes a reality. I thank God for SP and for our first year of marriage, I pray that God continues to grow us in the knowledge of himself and in the knowledge of each other. God is the one we are to be living for in ways that please him, my prayer is that we would continue to do that, yes we will fail but I pray we have perseverance to continue this path that God has ordained and brought about.

We are off to the Hunter Valley on Friday for the whole weekend, I can't wait. SP needs a break from work, we will be having a massage - visiting the vineyards in the area and then on Sunday - our anniversary day we are going out to this lovely restaurant for dinner - Yum, I can't wait. So today is like a Friday for me, off tomorrow and then a lovely long weekend - YEHA!!!

Happy Wednesday :)

is that all he thinks about?

My beautiful friend Marla has recently been to a book signing in Indiana for her new book 'Is that all he thinks about', I bet you can't guess what this book is all about???

Marla's first book 'From Blushing Bride to Wedded Wife' was the first and so far the only book of hers I have read, the new book is getting posted out soon ;) I have to thoroughly recommend 'From Blushing Bride to Wedded Wife' - it is awesome.

I first read it not too long after I got married and have been raving about it ever since, Marla has a way of meeting you where you are at, I breathed a sigh of relief when I read her words, she understood what being married was like, she tells it how it is and lovingly shares her experiences of what married life is like. I found the book encouraging, biblical, practical, hysterical, a relief and challenging. It was great to read that you are not alone, and I was given biblical godly advice on how I can love my husband more. There is so much in this book to take and apply to my marriage so many little golden nuggets to treasure. Marla's humour is fantastic, her compassion and honesty on various issues were insightful and encouraging.

I am not saying that marriage is now a doddle, or that we have no problems whatsoever, this is never going to be the case. BUT it was helpful in encouraging me to bring the things that are hard to God and think of things from a godly perspective and not from my own selfish perspective.

I recommend every women who is married, whether it's been 1 month or 60 years to check out this book, I am sure that you would find this book both helpful and a joy to read.

You can read a little of each book by clicking on the links at this site and you can order the books from this website

I will let you know how 'Is that all he thinks about?" is when I have read it. Stay posted!

marriages aren't made for heaven!

Yet again Sam in the City has some things to say on relationships and marriage. This makes me sad, I can hardly believe this is what some people think, but why am I surprised?

It's everywhere, all around us.

Marriages aren't made for heaven!

I believe that here on earth God has given us the gift of marriage and when we get married, it isn't just "for as long as we continue to love each other", "for as long as our love shall last" or "until our time together is over". Grrrr.

I do understand that some marriages can be complicated and that sometimes things happen which are out of your control, but God does intend it to be 'til death do us part'. It isn't just for Christmas it is for life, or at least until Jesus returns. Marriage isn't always a walk in the park, it is hard work (with my many months (10 mths) experience) I should know. It's not only God who tells us what is best when it comes to marriage, statistics have also proven that people who are married are more likely to stay together than those in a defacto relationship.

Marriage is a gift from God, not to be entered into lightly, it is for life. It's hard at times but an absolute joy at times too.